When you're in Vogue, the age issue comes up annually. When you're in a relationship the age issue can come up a bit more frequently. As someone who has a preference for older men but a reluctance to settle down with them I find myself in persistent relationship limbo. I am attracted to people who want to settle down, yet I myself am apparently not ready to settle.
I think my problem stems from the fact that although I may be an old soul I'm still young and have a lot to do and experience and if I were to settle down with someone who has already done and experienced those things it is inevitable that I'll have to forgo some of the life I would have had for the the life I could have. Would. Could. Should we be using these words when it comes to relationships or are these words the ones creating and perpetuating all the unrealistic expectations men seem to have.
The worst part about being 24 and dating men in their forties is I have to ask myself, and sometimes them, the inevitable question, really, truly, how much time do you have? This is not the for better or worse discussion. This is the for better or I'm out kind of dating. A guy nearing fifty can be in great shape, fun, athletic, sexy and still get around as much as I can but for how much longer? Sixty? Seventy? I hate to ask these questions. They're completely scary, not-supposed-to-talk-about-it kind of questions but will I want to be dating someone who is seventy when I'm forty? And for how long is this man a viable partner?
In a restaurant we can 86 items that are not available, but in a relationship can we 86 topics that are too scary to talk about?
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